What We Don’t Say in Therapy

If you're walking around irritated, anxious, or checked out, chances are you've gotten really good at burying what you actually want and even better at not saying it out loud.

Unfortunately, that same dynamic often repeats itself in the therapy room.

I hear too many cringey stories about how therapists indicate their political preference, talking about themselves too much, "just quiet," or "just not getting it." 

What I don't hear often is therapists talking about patients leaving because of any of these reasons. 

Because most patients don’t tell them.

They sit there while their therapist says something like, “I don’t know how anyone can vote for…”

Instead of responding with, “That makes me feel like there’s less room for me to speak freely here,” their heart races, they feel a little dizzy, avoid eye contact, and manage a polite nod.

Whether it’s politics, a vacation story, knee surgery, or just dead air, if your therapy sessions feel like a rerun of how you mute yourself in daily life… SAY SOMETHING.

That is the absolute best use of your 50 minutes.

Your therapist can probably take it.

And if they can’t? Well, that’s something worth finding out.

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Kate Winkler works with individuals and couples who reside in NJ. Click here to book a free intro call.