Couples Therapy
I can help you get clear about what works, what doesn't,
and what you can do about it.
How did you land on this page?
You didn’t Google couples therapy because everything’s going great.
Maybe your conversations keep circling the drain- same fight, different day. Or you're stuck in silence so thick it feels like you're roommates who co-parent, split bills, and text each other from the other room.
Some couples come in because they’re walking on eggshells. Others because they’ve stopped talking altogether, except when you’re arguing about whose turn it is to unload the dishwasher.
Common reasons couples start therapy:
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Communication breakdowns that make everyday life feel tense or distant
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Recurring fights about money, parenting, or in-laws
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One of you is always "doing everything" while the other "never notices"
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Exhaustion from juggling work, kids, and each other
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Feeling more like business partners than lovers
If any of this sounds familiar, you’re not alone, and it doesn’t mean your relationship is broken beyond repair.
What actually happens in couples therapy?
Couples therapy is not a courtroom. You’re not here to win the case.
Couples therapy will not be one long finger-pointing session, or me siding with one partner.
Good therapy isn't about blame - it's about insight, skill-building, and relief.
Long-term relationships are hard. Anybody can become stuck in painful dynamics that neither of them fully understands.
Therapy helps you:
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Spot the subtle ways you trigger or miss each other
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Speak more directly without going nuclear
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Practice regulating your nervous system when you're spiraling
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Learn how to disagree without losing respect
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Rebuild humor, flirtation, and teamwork
This is not just talking. It’s hands-on. We slow things down, try things out in real-time, and work on how you talk, not just what you say.
How long will it take?
Whether you're looking for help because you’ve got three kids under five or because you’ve been living in polite resentment for a decade, starting now is better than later.
Some couples come in for a 2-3 month “relationship tune-up.”
Others stay longer because what they’re working on is deeper - past betrayals, years of disconnection, or cycles that started long before the two of you ever met.
Think of therapy as cleaning out the emotional junk drawer: you can’t keep cramming things in and hoping it’ll close.
At some point, you pull everything out, take a good look, and decide what’s worth keeping, and how to make room for what matters.
What's the point?
Here’s what couples often notice after doing the work:
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Less tension and more actual talking
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More laughter
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Sex that doesn’t feel like a chore
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Calmer kids
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More “us” time that doesn’t revolve around to-do lists
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Feeling like a team again
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Being able to say the hard thing and stay connected
What now?
If you're tired of living in the same cycle but still believe there's something worth saving, you don’t have to figure it out alone.
Couples therapy can be the place where things start to shift - from distance to understanding, from sarcasm to honesty, from shutdown to “let’s try again.”
Come in. Bring the mess. Let’s see what’s underneath it, and if you can rebuild something solid, something that feels like home again.
