A better relationship starts here.

I work best with men & women who are burdened by self-doubt, self-censorship, guilt, anxiety, and an overall feeling of 'blah' about life,

helping them move from coping to living.

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Welcome to focused, effective psychotherapy.

Stop shrinking yourself.

Get closer to others.

Speak up.

Be more playful.

Therapy for Anxiety

Couples Therapy

Fertility

James stopped staying in relationships out of guilt, and ended up meeting the kind of partner

he actually wanted.

Hi, I'm
Kate Winkler

If you're walking around irritated, anxious, or checked out, chances are you've gotten really good at burying what you actually want or not getting the impact you want on others after saying what you want (over and over again).

In our work, we'll uncover unconscious, lifelong ways in which you relate to others and the world, transform lengthy explanations into effective actions, and disrupt destructive patterns that are costing you your relationships, your mental and physical well-being.

Here's some of what my patients report:

"I got really good at asking for what I need."

"I am still making mistakes, but the time spent on course correcting has gotten much shorter."

"I was shocked that sharing what I feel not only didn't escalate the situation, but moved it towards a more productive, connected conversation."

If you frequently wonder why you haven't said something, over-analyze whether you behaved the right way, or are frustrated with feeling misunderstood, my therapy approach is tailored just for you.

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Why work with me?

Get unstuck.

Feeling stuck usually means you’re doing more of the same without even realizing it, like hitting replay on a playlist you don’t even like. I help you spot those patterns as they’re happening, bringing them into the light in real-time so you can start shifting them right there in the therapy room. It’s hard work, and facing what feels intolerable isn’t easy, but I’ll be right there with you, staying in your corner through the challenges and breakthroughs.

Trust your psyche.

When we talk, nothing’s off-limits, stuff you’ve pushed aside, felt weird about, or didn’t think mattered. I make it easier to let those things come up naturally because they’re all part of the bigger picture. The more you notice what’s bubbling beneath the surface, the less likely it’ll catch you off guard later. It's not about fixing yourself, it's about knowing that everything your mind brings up has a reason and can help you understand yourself better.

Reduce self-deception.

Using my style and training in dynamic therapy, I pay close attention to subtle signals, your tone, facial expressions, and a variety of little-known signs of anxiety that can quietly shift you from being honest with yourself to saying something well-rehearsed and safe. By noticing where you tend to avoid or distort certain feelings, I help you face what’s really going on beneath the surface. By being more honest with yourself, decisions start to feel clearer, and relationships feel more connected and real, reducing second-guessing and pretending.