Blended Family Therapy
Blending a family can feel like assembling IKEA furniture without the instructions.
Creating a blended family is one of the most complex ways two adults can build a relationship.
There are ex-partners in the picture, custody schedules, emotional histories, loyalties, financial obligations to previous households, and children who did not choose this situation but have many thoughts and feelings about it.
If you frequently feel resentful, confused, overwhelmed, invisible, unsure what your role should be, or like you are walking into someone else’s movie halfway through, you are in the right place.
What Makes Blended Families Different
In blended families, there is no clean slate.
You are building a new chapter inside a story that already has:
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Established parent-child bonds
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Divorce agreements (and all the things they did not cover)
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Homes already lived in and rhythms already formed
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An ex-partner who still has a seat at the table, whether physically or emotionally
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Long-standing and often unspoken rules and roles
What Brings People to Blended Family Therapy
Blended family therapy is helpful if you are navigating things like:
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Feeling like you are always second to the kids
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Loyalty binds
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A partner who is accustomed to dynamics you are still learning to tolerate
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Money disagreements linked to past obligations
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Resentment that slowly hardens the love
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Feeling like you and your partner are on opposite teams
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Underlying jealousy, ongoing comparison, and increased avoidance
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Feeling like an outsider in your own house
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Grief over not getting the clean family slate you imagined
Blended families erode through silence, resentment, pressure to adjust, and the belief that your needs have to wait until everyone else’s are sorted first.
How Blended Family Therapy Helps
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Strengthening the couple bond so the family has a core that holds
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Naming the invisible rules you inherited and deciding which ones stay
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Setting boundaries
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Trusting your intuition
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Identifying role confusion and clarifying expectations
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Creating a home that feels emotionally and physically shared
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Talking through money, fairness, and long-term planning without shame or panic
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Learning to repair before resentment takes over the relationships
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Finding humor in moments where survival mode wants to take over
I help patients build a blended family that feels playful, resilient, grounded, and truly theirs.